Couples Therapy
Deepening Connection, Communication & Intimacy
Whether you’re in a new relationship, navigating conflict, adjusting to big life changes, or simply wanting to feel closer, couples therapy offers a supportive space to grow together.
As a Gottman-trained therapist, I draw on proven tools to help couples communicate more effectively, repair ruptures, and build emotional trust. But my approach goes deeper than skills. I work from a trauma-informed, anti-racist, feminist lens, integrating attachment theory, somatic practices, and intergenerational awareness to help partners understand why certain patterns arise—and how to shift them with care and intention.
A key focus of my work is intimacy—emotional, physical, and sexual. Many couples struggle to talk openly about their needs or feel disconnected over time. I support partners in exploring these tender areas with compassion, helping you reconnect, rebuild desire, and foster deeper closeness in a way that feels safe and affirming.
I work with couples and families of all structures, including LGBTQSI+ and non-traditional relationships. My goal is to create a space where both partners feel seen, heard, and supported.
Couples therapy isn’t just for times of crisis—it’s an investment in your relationship at any stage. Together, we’ll explore what’s keeping you stuck and move toward patterns of connection, communication, and intimacy that are grounded in mutual respect and understanding.
Attachment Style
It’s Not Just About Your Childhood Anymore
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Attachment styles are everywhere these days—TikTok, Instagram, your group chat, that one friend who suddenly thinks they’re a licensed therapist (who may also be your partner). And honestly? There’s a reason. Your attachment style is basically your nervous system’s relationship blueprint. It’s how you learned—usually way back in the sippy cup years—what to expect from love, closeness, and connection. Were people there for you? Were they unpredictable? Did you have to shrink, shout, or shut down to get your needs met?
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Fast forward to adult relationships, and voilà: those early patterns tend to sneak into our most intimate connections. Not because you’re broken, but because relationships are where our oldest wounds—and deepest longings—come out to play. So if you and your partner keep getting stuck in the same looping fights, or if one of you wants to “talk about our feelings” while the other mysteriously disappears to clean the garage… you’re not alone. You’re probably just caught in a classic attachment dance.
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The good news? You can absolutely learn new steps. That’s what we do in couples therapy.
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Learn More About Attachment Styles
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Learn More About how we work with Attachment in Couples Therapy​
Becoming Parents
And why this transition is beautiful, brutal
—and deeply disorienting for couples
“We Had a Baby… Now What?”
No one really warns you that having a baby is like throwing a glitter bomb into your relationship—sparkly and full of love, yes—but also completely chaotic, overwhelming, and impossible to clean up all the way.
Even in loving, intentional partnerships, the transition to parenthood can hit like a tidal wave. You’re exhausted, your body’s not your own, your days revolve around feeding, soothing, and wondering how it’s already bedtime again. Your relationship? You love each other—but now it’s all logistics, dishes, and the ongoing mystery of “where did the baby’s sock go?”
Here’s what many couples are quietly wrestling with after a baby:
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Identity upheaval: You’re not who you were—and neither is your partner. Parenthood reshapes everything, and not always in ways you expected.
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Communication struggles: Deep conversations become tactical updates. It’s less “How are you feeling?” and more “Did you sterilize the pump parts?”
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Uneven emotional and domestic labor: In many families—especially cis-het ones—birthing parents often carry the invisible weight of planning, organizing, soothing, and sensing. And let’s be honest: patriarchy didn’t vanish with the placenta.
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Intimacy limbo: Between exhaustion, hormonal shifts, and trauma recovery, it’s normal for desire to ebb (or completely disappear). Reconnecting can feel confusing, or even scary.
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Grief and guilt: You can be grateful for your child and still grieve your former life, body, freedom, or relationship. And you don’t need to perform “perfect parenthood” to be a good one.
Let’s also name the wider truth: the nuclear family model was never meant to hold all of this. Our systems often isolate parents, especially Black, Indigenous, and racialized families, queer parents, disabled parents, and single or low-income caregivers. Structural inequities, lack of support, and intergenerational trauma often show up inside relationships in deeply personal ways. It’s not just you. And it’s not just your relationship.
How I can Help?
Supporting couples to juggle diapers and date nights
—so your family thrives without losing your sanity.
As a couples therapist and a parenting person myself, I offer a space that holds both: the real relational shifts that come with parenting and the very personal, lived experiences of caregiving, identity change, and trying to hold it all.
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My approach is trauma-informed, body-based, feminist, and anti-oppressive. I hold space for what you’re carrying—not just emotionally, but structurally and historically too.
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In our work together, we’ll explore how to:
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Repair and reconnect after distance, conflict, or just a long stretch of baby-induced silence
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Redistribute labor and power in ways that actually feel fair and sustainable
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Name the invisible expectations around parenting, caregiving, and roles—so they don’t quietly run the show
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Dream together again—about your relationship, your values, and the kind of family culture you want to co-create
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Support co-regulation—so your nervous systems (and your baby’s) feel held, not fried
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Make space for grief, laughter, rage, tenderness, and all the wild in-between moments
Many new parents believe the baby should be the sole focus—but the research tells a different story: your connection as a couple is the real foundation for your child’s emotional development. When your bond is tended to, your baby benefits too.
You don’t have to choose between caring for your child and caring for your relationship. They go hand-in-hand. The beauty of working with someone who understands both parenting and partnership is that you don’t have to translate or explain the complexity. I get it.
I’m here to help you navigate the fog, name what’s been unspoken, and build a new kind of intimacy that reflects who you are now—not just who you were before.
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